Holy Tuesday: Finality
April 14, 2009The night before, Ian, Eduard, Billy, and I (Babyline went home to their house) planned to go to Ian’s school to get his final grades for the school year and then go to my friend’s Internet shop to let you know I live hehe.
In the morning, when all the light bulbs were off, Ian, Eduard, and I ate our breakfast; took our baths; and dressed up to go to Ian’s school. Billy had his friend over at their house (which was beside the compound where Lola and our family live) and were sound tripping, so he did not come with us. I could not force him, so we just left without him.
I wanted to go with Ian to his school to get his card with him, but you know teenagers, so I said Eduard and I would just wait for him at my friend’s net shop, which was just a few minutes walk away. He was hesitant to show his card when he arrived and warned me of his not-so-high grades. I decided to see his card, when we’re already in the car on our way home.
At the net shop, I uploaded three very short posts, mostly about random thoughts (and NOT emo! hehe) and chatted with eks and PJVP. Mostly, I needed reassurance from them that I’d be doing the right thing, that is, declining a job offer to be a Writer/Web Content Administrator. I think it sounds better that it actually is hehe. After 2 weeks of deliberating with eks, we finally decided against transferring work.
I don’t know, but after thinking while sleeping (oh, yes) on Monday night, I realized that, after weighing the pros and cons, in the end, what would matter is where you’d be happier, or not sadder. I’ve always known that salary is not the only factor in work, but actually choosing between two jobs was a brain wrecker. After the yes’s from eks and PJVP when asked if I’d be doing the right thing, I sent a mail declining the new job. I would have accepted that job had things been different. Oh, well. I cannot have it all. Surprisingly, I am no longer bothered with that decision. I don’t know, but there must be something being with the kids that made me decide with finality what I wanted or needed.
After sending the mail, I talked with my friend whom I haven’t seen for months already while the two kids were social networking, watching trailers, and playing Sponge Bob games. Over a box of donuts, my friends and I exchanged stories while waiting for the two to finish. Would you believe that they were in front of the computer from 11 am until 2 pm, and they wouldn’t have noticed that we were missing lunch had I not told them? Kids and computers. I thanked my friend, and we left the net shop.
In the car, I asked for Ian’s card. He wouldn’t give it at first, so Eduard grab it and gave it to me. That’s my boy! hehe. At this point, Ian no longer protested. He had a fair grade, nothing spectacular. I was actually expecting lower grades because of his super resistance to show it. But I found his card acceptable. I told him that it is okay not to be honor or not to get high grades; that he passed his subjects was enough for me (this is my line of thinking when I was still studying, though I’m not sure if it’s right hehe). And that he should also show his card to Lola because Lola deserved to see the fruits of the education she’s been paying for. I think he understood.
When all the children were asleep, I went out with old friends, some I haven’t seen for 3 years, at 11 pm and came home around 5 am. hehe. Though I knew mom would be angry if I stay until morning, I’m hoping she’d understand a little. After all, time passes fast when talking with childhood friends and hometown pips.
When I got home, after listening for a minute to my mom’s “comments,” I went to my bed and fell asleep at once. Zzzzzz…
Previous Comments
hi, tita, and everyone sa post! hehehe.
Posted by eks at April 15, 2009, 5:18 pmi agree, isang factor lang ang salary..
in my case, i worked in a GOCC..super low lang din ang pay. but the company, yung frends sa loob, the camaraderie, at yung respect sayo ng people around you, ang pumipigil sa kin na umalis sa work…
haayyy..namiss ko tuloy sila..hehehe
Posted by sexy at April 15, 2009, 7:35 pmI agree, it’s hard to change jobs, let alone choose between two job offers. I use a template that helps me in making the right choice.
1) Draw a table in MS Word
2) vertically list all the factors that will affect your decision, score each factor’s importance between 1-5 (1 least important, 5 most important) Ex. Salary 5, Environment 2, Boss 4, etc.
3) List down the companies horizontally. If Company A has the HIGHEST salary offer, put a 5 under it. If Company B has the BEST environment, put 2 under it.
4) When you’re done, add up the numbers for each company. The one with the highest value wins.
Not saying that this method always works, but I still found it helpful.
this is one very well spent day. do it again…he he he.
Posted by kayni at April 16, 2009, 12:22 ami wish i could have time to do just the things i want to do, but time is so cruel for me now…
Posted by sheng at April 16, 2009, 11:27 ami also used to think that getting passing grades is enough. now, as an adult and a mom, there’s a tiny bitsy regret; i should have studied better. but if my boy would have the same line of thinking, i won’t mind. but i really hope he wouldn’t hehe
i agree with you. money isn’t the biggest factor why we stay in our current job, but it’s also a big factor why we think of leaving. and im very glad you chose to stay
I’m glad your back Mordsith!
I’ve missed you and your posts!
[eks] ay sana nga.
[sexy] namiss ka rin siguro nila.
[garando] brilliant! too bad i didn’t know this then. maybe in the future. hehe.
[kayni] oh yeah. i wanna do it again. hehe
[sheng] don’t worry dear sheng, you’ll have the time.
[kaka] you know, one of the factors i never left is i enjoy you and my other friends’ company here.
Posted by mordsith at April 16, 2009, 9:23 pmjetty, i’m also glad to be back. i’m planning on doing a post for the whole holy week.
Posted by mordsith at April 16, 2009, 9:24 pmyou’ll know in your heart what to do mordsith!
About “mommy comments,” would you believe I still get those? Kahit mommy na ako myself.
Posted by ThePseudoshrink at April 17, 2009, 7:55 pm[kg] thanks to friends who help me see what’s inside!
[TPS] don’t they grow tired of it? hehe
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something better will come along.. naniniwala ako.:-)
Posted by eks at April 15, 2009, 5:16 pm